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Published on December 9th, 2014 | by Nancy F. Clark

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Do You Need To Improve Your Allowing-Controlling Ratio?

By Janice Drescher—

Your passion for your business vision is the magnet that will inspire others who connect with your vision to join you. Without that passion, the signal you send to others isn’t strong enough to bring others to you who match your passion and are inspired to help you fulfill your business vision. Creating a team of employees that is aligned with your passion and vision sets the stage for business success and opens the door to the world of allowing vs. controlling.

Your role as a leader

As the leader of your business, your role is to provide the unwavering clarity and inspiration that is infectious to others who share your vision. Your leadership is the heartbeat of your business. With that foundation in place, you have the opportunity to invite creative input from your team and appreciate the collaboration that results when the vision is clear and the players are aligned with that vision.

How does this happen? This is where the allowing comes in. Allowing ideas has the potential to create a result that is greater than the sum of its parts. Appreciation is a key aspect of cultivating an environment of allowing because it opens the space to acknowledge and embrace others’ ideas. Allowing input from your team encourages them to become engaged in a way that creates value for them as well as for your business. Allowing requires trust in your team and the certainty within yourself that your leadership will keep things on track. Letting go of controlling the direction of your business sets the stage for allowing your vision to unfold in ways that may surprise you.

How do you establish this type of leadership?

It starts with understanding that you can’t control anyone else. The only thing you can influence is your own experience. We have the ability to cultivate more of what we want when we focus our attention there and get very specific about what that means to us. By increasing our presence and awareness, we expand our capacity to tap into our deepest intentions. When we are aligned with our truest intentions, we lay the ground for allowing ideas that match those intentions.

Allowing ideas that match what we want is a departure from the more typical approach of “efforting” to “make” something happen. Inviting ideas that match your intentions has a whole different feel to it. Allowing has relaxation in it. Too often, we don’t slow down enough to allow our ideas to take shape. We’re an action oriented, fast paced society. Slowing down and allowing the space for those ideas to emerge is the often missed opportunity. As we practice more presence and awareness, our ability to tap into our core intentions deepens and we gain access to an abundance of ideas and opportunities that can take us where we want to go. These ideas may come from your own thoughts or thoughts of others, an article, a flyer, radio show, a conversation with someone. Your own clarity about what you want gives you the focus to notice these opportunities which may otherwise go unnoticed.

Why is this so important? Because

 Imagine a company full of employees who are invited to bring their best to the workplace every day , who are fully engaged in the fulfillment of the company’s vision, who feel valued, trusted and appreciated. This is the magic of allowing.

Janice Drescher, Owner, Intentional Leaders Business Coaching & Consulting www.intentionalleaders.com. See her Top Coach page.

Nancy Clark is CEO of PositivityDaily, Director of Forbes WomensMedia, and author of The Positive Journal. She coaches companies and executives in business skills with the added benefit of training in positive psychology and happiness -- incorporating the latest scientific studies on changing brain patterns and habits. Clark believes that positivity is the next necessary step to engage employees.

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About the Author

Nancy Clark is CEO of PositivityDaily, Director of Forbes WomensMedia, and author of The Positive Journal. She coaches companies and executives in business skills with the added benefit of training in positive psychology and happiness -- incorporating the latest scientific studies on changing brain patterns and habits. Clark believes that positivity is the next necessary step to engage employees.



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