Published on December 24th, 2015 | by Nancy F. Clark0
Why Ruminating Hurts Success And How To Hurdle Those Thoughts
By Jaime Kulaga–
Fight or flight is the theory that states when we feel threatened we fight in the situation or flee. In prehistoric times, fight or flight was a survival mechanism and only those who were finely tuned passed this innate capability to their children. Without doing so, people became victims to predators. Survival of the fittest. This innate behavior has been since passed down over the centuries hardwiring capabilities into our brains.
As we discuss hardwiring of the brain, it’s interesting to note that some studies have shown that women are more prone to rumination. Rumination is that thinking where we spend hours going over the same thing, again and again. Over the centuries, our brains have gotten really good at speeding up the fight and flight response. When we face stressors, our brain immediately has memories of when we were in similar situations. Nowadays, we’re pretty good at managing our survival, but we still find ways to repeatedly hardwire our brains for the unnecessary.
So, women are prone to rumination, what’s the problem with that? The problem comes into play when we ruminate on events that highlight our mistakes and flaws. Repeatedly thinking about wrongdoings is hardwiring the brain in a negative direction. Consistently thinking about what we do wrong is a blow to confidence and sure to enhance self-doubt. The truth is, what you think about yourself creates a perception of who we are to the world and how we’re viewed. If you have ever sat back and asked yourself why people don’t respect you, or why people doubt you, this is a good opportunity to reflect on how you think of yourself and how those perceptions might be telling the world a story of who you are. During this reflection, if you observe that you have self-doubt, lack confidence or have fears, it may be time to find ways to build up who you are as a person.
3 Ways Rumination Hurts Your Success And How To Hurdle These Thoughts
Ruminating Hurts Your Present Moment
If you consistently reflect on the negative you are ruining your present. You are taking away the joy of today as you bring in negativity. Typically the negativity is from your past or something that you can’t control regarding your future. When we ruminate negatively we encourage our minds to see more problems in the present. The way you encourage your mind to think today is a blueprint for how your tomorrows will be.
The Fix: See problems as opportunities. The best professionals or leaders, the people with the happiest personal lives, they cut the ruminating on all the problems and instead ruminate on how this hurdle could actually be an opportunity for advancement. They re-hardwire their brains to focus more on finding solutions and viewing setbacks (and we all have them) as learning lessons. Instead of ruminating on where you messed up, what you should have done differently, or how embarrassed, hurt or sad you are, ruminate on how to move forward, on solutions and alternatives. Ruminate on how you are now more equipped with better knowledge and understating for the next venture.