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Published on August 12th, 2014 | by Aymee Coget

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2 Happiness Tactics For Challenges At Work

By Aymee Coget, PhD—

How many challenges do you have on a daily basis at work? How many before noon?

If you are like most people, you are constantly fighting stress, anxiety, time pressure, people with bad attitudes and your boss’s happiness.

How many challenges do you have on a daily basis at work? How many before noon?

Plus you’re probably doing the job of 5 people, spending time in rush hour traffic, buried in the never ending to do list without a vision of completion.

You may have been passed over for a promotion, had a miscommunication with a colleague, or under performed to your boss’s expectations.

You may be balancing work and family and feel torn between performance standards at work and being the best parent. You may feel discontent and unfulfilled, or stuck in the doldrums of the everyday.

What ever it is, admit it, you have challenges.

When these challenges surface, your happiness is probably compromised. You’re on an emotional roller coaster: if things are good, you’re happy, if things are bad, you’re unhappy. This drives your heartbeat up, creates shallowness in your breath and shakes your inner peace into anxiety and stress.

SO……

Instead of anxiety and stress in the midst of these challenging situations, you can use these two 5-Step Methods to hold on to your happiness. When done correctly, these 5-step methods will allow you to gracefully move through ANY challenge with the flow of the Nile river and the ease of a trained ballerina. At the completion of each of the steps you will have peace in your heart and a smile on your face; you may even laugh in the face of your challenging moments!

Use Your Happiness Shield: KLOGZ

When a person, place, thing, or circumstance aims to create unhappiness for you, use your happiness shield. Respond to the situation with your KLOGZ – kindness, love, optimism, gratitude and zest!

5 Steps

1. Kindness:  I admire _____

2. Love:  I accept ______

3. Optimism:  I am optimistic ______

4. Gratitude:  I am grateful _______

5. Zest:  I am excited ________

For example, if your boss is in a bad mood, you can walk into her/his office and say,

admire how everyday you bring your A game to work.

appreciate how much you devote yourself to this company.

I am optimistic you will persevere through this current challenge.

I am grateful for the opportunity to fully support you in this challenge.

I am excited to do whatever I can to help you handle this situation!

If you want a bonus happiness boost, throw in a HIGH FIVE!

The result: Laughter, lightness, and positive social bonding.

Use Your Acceptance Model: DAPAG

One lady said she had a bad day at work every day until she started using the acceptance model!  You can use this when negative circumstances happen beyond your control.

Instead of following your ego-emotional reaction into a downward spiral when something doesn’t go your way, you can choose to respond using the acceptance model.

5 Steps

1. Decide to Accept – Realize it is out of your control, breathe, and respond using this acceptance model.

2. Accept – Feel acceptance in your mind, heart, and soul.  Allow this peace to spread to your physical body.

3. Practical Response – Handle the situation at hand with a clear mind and open heart.

4. Ask your heart “What did I learn?” – There are learning lessons within challenges.

5. Gratitude for the learning – I am grateful for learning ____ because it adds _____ to my life. This allows you access to the deeper meaning of how this challenge has helped you grow.

For example, the copy machine is broken and you’re responsible for bringing 50 copies to the meeting starting in 5 minutes. Your heart is racing and your breath is shallow—negative self talk is going off the hook.

Instead of panic mode, you realize this is out of your control and you should use DAPAG the acceptance model.

You decide to take a deep breath and recognize this situation is out of your control.

You take a moment to feel acceptance in your mind, spirit and body allowing you to relax.

You respond with practicality to the problem by sending the document by email to your colleagues and decide it’s better for the environment too.

You take a minute to touch your heart and connect with your heartbeat. When you feel connected to your inner voice, ask “What did I learn?”

Your inner truth speaks and you hear “Decide to be an environmental champion at work encouraging paperless meetings.”

You take a deep breath acknowledging that this broken copier panic attack is going to steer you to make a bigger difference at your company and the world at large.

You complete the model with gratitude: “I am grateful for learning I am an eco-hero because it adds a deeper meaning and purpose to my job.”

The result: contentment, peace of heart, peace of mind, and personal growth.

Now you know how to put of your happiness shield (KLOGZ) and apply your acceptance model (DAPAG) so you can overcome ANY challenge like an Olympic Hurdler with grace and ease, laughter and joy, and peace in your heart and mind.

What kind of contribution are you to your company now? How can this resiliency help you at work now?

Overcome stress and create peace with the 2 methods you learned here. Tell me how it went, connect to me on twitter and face book, I would love to hear your stories of how you used these five steps to overcome your challenges at work.

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Aymee Coget, PhD  Sustainable Happiness Expert  

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I specialize in the sustainability of happiness. I train life coaches and work with individuals by helping them take leadership of their happiness, which in turn creates an upward spiral in their life. My expertise is in the areas of positive psychology, leadership, goal achievement, and most of all how to sustain happiness for the rest of one's life.

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About the Author

I specialize in the sustainability of happiness. I train life coaches and work with individuals by helping them take leadership of their happiness, which in turn creates an upward spiral in their life. My expertise is in the areas of positive psychology, leadership, goal achievement, and most of all how to sustain happiness for the rest of one's life.



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